Wedding Dress Hunting and My Green Conscious.

For years it’s been the norm that grooms rent their tuxedos, despite the fact that you can buy a brand new gorgeous tux for less than the price of rental. Buying a tux makes sense because it’s highly likely that you’ll have another opportunity to wear one, at least if you’re marrying a musician who loves to attend galas. So why is it that Rent-a-Bridal-Gown is still hasn’t really caught on? It’s certainly more expensive to buy a dress than to rent one, and you will never have a reason to wear a wedding dress again. Somehow grooms still rent tuxes, and brides still buy gowns.

David and I are trying to be different, as you’ve read over our many blogs. He actually bought a tuxedo last week, and it was indeed less money to buy than to rent. I, as you know, have been fixated on borrowing a friend’s wedding dress, or buying something pre-owned.

Let me get something straight. I’m not judging anyone who buys a new bridal gown. I’ve tried on plenty, and they are completely gorgeous. It’s totally understandable to want to wear something that makes you feel perfect on the one day in your life when you know everyone will be looking at you. But for the same reasons that I don’t eat meat and I do compost, I don’t want to buy something brand new. I don’t care if you eat meat, and I don’t care if you have a brand new gorgeous gown. It’s just not my thing.

Except that now, um, … I’m starting to want a new gown. I haven’t had a craving for a steak in the sixteen years I’ve been a vegetarian, so why is it that I’m craving a pretty new dress? I can’t help wonder if I’m being subliminally twisted by the wedding industry.

I’ve got three lovely dresses that have been donated to my “borrow-a-dress” cause, but I’m starting to think that maybe I do want my own dress. I feel horrible about it, like I do when I’m too disgusted/lazy to clean out the mystery tupperware in the back of the refrigerator, and rather than cleaning it, composting it, and recycling it, I throw it away and pretend it never happened.

Besides, some of these places are having ridiculous sales this week… by the way, if I start to ‘fess up to buying something at retail price, you’ll know I’ve lost my mind. Keep an eye out for me, will ya?

14 Comments on "Wedding Dress Hunting and My Green Conscious."

  1. Angela Champion | March 31, 2011 at 8:45 am | Reply

    Liberal guilt is just the worst, right? And this is coming from a Catholic. A conflicting double whammy! Give yourself permission to have this if it’s what you want. And then stop the guilt. Good luck!

  2. Completely! Ugh, and I hadn’t even considered the Catholic thing … my dad’s Catholic and my mom is Jewish. No wonder I’m screwed!

  3. Have you seen the Anthropologie bridal line, BHLDN? I’m about to buy a dress from their non-big-white-dress section, I think.

  4. Karen L Dunlap | March 31, 2011 at 9:48 am | Reply

    this place used to be called Bridal and Fromal outlet, but not anymore. Brides do travel many miles to visit. Good Luck, Brigid, what ever you find you will be stunning. How about a tiara for a vail, lols..

  5. Yeah, go ahead and buy a new dress…wear it once…and it can sit under your bed for the next 30 years. It can join the two I now have under my bed…my wife’s and my daughter’s (she already has stuff under her bed so her wedding dress moved to my house).

    BTW, you can save even more if you buy a used tux at the shop in lower level at MidCity Mall.

  6. Margue Esrock | March 31, 2011 at 5:02 pm | Reply

    Say “yes to a new dress!” You don’t have to buy a gazillion dollar dress. In fact, don’t try on any dress that isn’t in your budget. Just remember it will sit in your closet, under your bed, but that’s what they do.

  7. Excellent advice, everyone … I’ll let you know what I end up doing. I actually found a few that are pretty and simple enough to have shortened after the wedding, which makes them even more tempting.

  8. Now I feel stupid. That’s celared it up for me

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