Confessions of a Groom-to-Be

I figure the best way to get to know you folks is to just start by revealing entirely too much about myself.  I love weddings. I always have.  I remember my oldest sister getting married like it was yesterday. I wore tails, bore the ring, and then ran around like crazy at the reception.

So when it comes to my very own wedding, I’ve always known it was going to be awesome. The hardest part of course is finding the right bride-to-be…well, I got extremely lucky there. So now it’s all about the other details — location, food, band, bar, colors, flowers, bar…and the bar. In researching all these details, I have been disappointed by the lack of quality man-to-man groom advice. Surprise, all the books are for the brides!

After exhausting the library and looking online, I decided I would have to write my own groom’s handbook. It would be helpful for surviving your wedding planning and not be overly sexist (most of the groom books that do exist, assume your idiocy and just tell you to get out-of-the-way.) I wanted a book that recognized me as a partner in this planning and hopefully this marriage. That’s when I stumbled upon Well-Groomed by Peter Scott. This book is the perfect mix of wedding humor and good advice. Peter realizes that we men are not morons, and that some of us might care about the flowers (ok, if not the flowers, maybe the food…or bar.) Check it out at the library today (if I’ve returned it.)

So grooms-to be, don’t shy away from the wedding planning. I’m out here looking through magazines, researching catering, and talking about themes — you can too. If that’s not your thing, pick up the book anyway, it’s a good way to show you’re interested.

Final confession, I hope this wedding turns out to be everything I’ve been dreaming about since I was 6 years old.

Photo: kevindean

6 Comments on "Confessions of a Groom-to-Be"

  1. As a groom who twice opted for the “get-out-of-the-way” method, I’m anxious to hear how your participation goes over with the bride. Good Luck, David!

  2. David …. I am so excited to hear that there truly is a ‘connected’ groom out there in the world. Most husbands are incredibly disconnected from the process which makes us brides to be stressed and anxious. We become the default final decision makers for monumentally huge choices that should be equally important to both parties! Kudos to you for taking an active role. I am confident that you and Brigid will plan a truly special wedding of your dreams … can’t wait to see how it turns out!

  3. Thank you Tyra…it’s good to be apprecaited.

  4. I told my grohematndr how you helped. She said, “bake them a cake!”

  5. What a pleasure to find someone who idenitfies the issues so clearly

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